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To Boast or Not to Boast

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I remember over twenty years ago when I had a bully boss. He would belittle his employees in public. And then laugh. He would lord it over us and let us know that he was the man in charge. And behind closed doors, he would treat women on his team disrespectfully if he felt threatened by them. I heard other women say subtle things about his behavior, but I didn’t quite understand what they were talking about. Until one day, it was my turn to be belittled and threatened.

He had begun to push certain work onto me that was not mine to do. I let him know that I disagreed with his intentions, so the bullying began. And boy did he know how to bully. I had never experienced that type of behavior, and boy was it uncomfortable. He threatened my job and made my work life miserable. I finally understood what the other women were talking about. And I stood firm in my decision to say no to his demands.

And then after one of the most experienced women on our team left the company, she called me. She knew what was happening to me, so she suggested I call HR and fill them in. So I did. After everyone had left for the day, I walked into a conference room and closed the door. Then I called our HR representative and told my story. What I didn’t know at that time was the woman who had called me the day before had told a similar story to mine in her exit interview. After a proper investigation was completed in our department, no one was told if any punishment was meted out to our manager. But he suddenly became nice to me. And then I got laid off a few months later.

This man wreaked havoc not only on the women, but he would make inappropriate comments to his male employees in department meetings. He was rude and unchecked. He acted as if he could reign supreme and nothing would happen to him. Anyone was fair game. But usually it was women he set his sights on.

This man who thought he could treat his employees as underlings later learned that he was no better than them, because he too eventually lost his job when that company closed its doors. He too became unemployed along with everyone else. He did not have the last laugh. He had to find a new career, just as I had already done months earlier.

A warrior putting on his sword for battle should not boast like a warrior who has already won. 1 Kings 20:11

Have you ever known a really evil person who once in their lifetime says something profound? I’m not sure that I have, but it has happened. At least once. And it wasn’t recent.

King Ahab, the most evil king who ever ascended the throne of Israel once suggested one of the wisest truths of all times. Oh. He had an unwieldy past with his nation, so let’s explore that before we think about his wise saying. His father, King Omri had been considered the worst king of Israel. That is, until his son Ahab took the throne. Over time, Ahab gained the reputation of being the absolute worst and most evil king who ever ruled Israel.

Ahab had married a princess named Jezebel, the daughter of an evil king from Sidon. She brought idol worship to their marriage, mainly the worship of Baal. And Ahab, wanting to please his wife, allowed her to worship this manmade god. He did not follow in the footsteps of some of the earlier Israelite kings in worshipping the One True God. He was in a line of kings who descended further down the path of running from God. Running from God is a very slippery slope. Like his father, he allowed others to influence his spiritual life, and he led the nation down a dark, dark path of idolatry. The further they moved from worshipping God, the more evil he became. It is a natural progression, even still to this day.

Together, Ahab and Jezebel wreaked havoc throughout the nation of Israel. And that really isn’t anything to brag about. How can they claim bragging rights to building up the country when a noticeable spiritual decline was in progress? The country went from bad to worse.

The other unique thing about Ahab’s reign is that, even though he kept running farther and farther away from God, God still helped him win battles against his adversaries. But Ahab kept ignoring God’s help. And his adversaries kept coming for him and Israel. They would not let up in their pursuit of this nation.

King Ahab was able to defeat his enemy, King Ben-Hadad of Aram by following God’s instructions. This enemy king had brought thirty two allied kings with him to wipe out King Ahab in Samaria, the capital city of Israel. And still in his running from God, he and his army defeated them.

You can read the story of King Ahab’s victories and downfall in 1 Kings 20.

It’s unusual for most people to boast before they’ve been announced the victor, but that’s exactly what King Ahab did. Oh. He was addressing the other king who had been boasting. Here’s what he said. He stated that a warrior putting on his armor for battle should not boast like a warrior who has won. And he spoke wisely. When you examine that one sentence out of his entire life, it seems odd that it would come from him. He didn’t act or live like a godly man, but he knew the power of God. Even though he wasn’t living in obedience to God, he knew what God was capable of doing. He knew that all things are possible with God. Perhaps he wasn’t even considering that God could win the battle for him when he said that. He may have just been relying on himself and his army. Who really knows.

But Israel did indeed win the battle that day. He not only beat Ben-Hadad, but he also beat the other thirty two kings who had come along that day. If he thought he needed to boast, now was the time to do so.

Don’t we all know it? The best way to be defeated is to boast of victory before it’s ours. It’s a known fact that we shouldn’t puff ourselves up before the contest has begun. It’s a sure sign of failure. Ahab warned Ben-Hadad of just this thing, and he was proven right.

We can never be too self assured. We never know what’s around the corner. Whether we’re being attacked or if we’re on the attack, humility and faith in God are the winning way in life. Oh. It isn’t always easy. It doesn’t always seem the most popular route. But when has trusting God really been the popular route to take? Or the easiest? Living the Christian life isn’t for wimps. It isn’t for the cowardly. If we are to boast, we must boast in our Lord Jesus Christ. And we can boast about him every step of our journey, because we know that in the end he is the supreme winner.

In our race to win the prize for Christ, we can’t boast in our own efforts or gains. We don’t know what lies ahead. We don’t know the battles we haven’t yet faced. Our boasting, if we must, must be in the all knowing, all seeing, all powerful God of the Universe. Only he is worthy of praise and honor. Our successes will fall by the wayside, but he stands forever strong. We must always stay on guard, because we too may fall on the sword of boasting before our battle is won.

God is Good All the Time

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I remember when I was around twelve years old, my mom told me that I was old enough to start having daily devotions. So I went into my dad’s office to look for a devotional book. I remember the one I selected. It talked about the Trinity. And that’s how I became more familiar with the roles of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. After that, I started making a habit of reading my Bible every day.

Through the years, I would use select devotional books and other devotional guides. But for the past five years, I have read the Bible through each year. For a couple of years, I read through the Bible Recap. Then for the next two years, I read through two different chronological Bibles. For the past year, I followed a chronological guide on the Bible reading app.

I decided that for this year I needed to try a different approach to my devotions. I love reading through the Bible chronologically each year, but I wanted to slow the pace and focus on fewer passages of Scripture. I’m doing a study called Christ in all of Scripture. I’ve only finished three weeks of the study, but it definitely slows me down to read the same select Scripture all week long.

The study this week focused on the first chapter of Genesis. Since I’ve read the story of creation multiple times, I knew what to expect. It tells how God created the earth and everything on it in six days. And at the end of each day, he looked at what he created and saw that it was good. He liked what he had created. It was all still in its purest form, like a newborn babe. Then he made man to rule over the fish of the sea, the birds of the sky, the livestock, the wild animals of the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground. At the end of the sixth day, he looked at the man of his creation and saw that it was very good. Man wasn’t just good. He was very good.

It got me to thinking that since God saw that all of his creation was good, it’s a reminder that He too is good all the time. Even when times of discouragement and dread overtake us, God is still good. Our circumstances don’t dictate the goodness of God. Our situations can change unexpectedly, but that doesn’t mean that God changes. He is always consistent and his ways are higher than our ways. For this I am thankful. He is the author of life, and he dictates when it begins and ends.

Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you. Deuteronomy 31:8

Can we still praise God when our world has turned upside down? We might ask what’s there to give praise for when our whole world has collapsed. It’s easy to say that God is good all the time when times are good. But when times of trouble come our way, why do we suddenly question him? Why does doubt suddenly creep in? Has God changed? No. Our circumstances have. And yes. God is the author of life. He’s the giver and taker of life. He knows everything about us and what’s ahead before we do. He knows when we fail him and when we doubt him. His love for us never changes. Regardless of what we’re facing, God is with us.

We may think that God is not present in our lives when trouble comes our way. But does the sun fail to exist when it’s covered by clouds? Just because the sun isn’t shining doesn’t means there’s no sun. Does the moon die every day when daylight hits the skies? No. And God still exists and sees us even when he’s silent in the middle of our need.

When we’re going through a difficulty, it might be time to ask what we can learn from the situation instead of how to get out of it. Instead of focusing on ourselves and what we want, we need to shift our mindset to making sure we’re pleasing God with our thoughts, attitudes, and actions. The situation may not change. Even if it does, it may not be in our complete favor. But God is still good, and he’s still in control. He surrounds us with his presence. He is our hiding place. Let’s run to him instead of to something else that numbs our heart and mind.

God goes before us and he walks behind us. He hovers over us and encircles us with his presence. God is our ever present help in times of trouble.

You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. Psalm 139:5

He found him in a desert land, and in the howling waste of the wilderness; he encircled him, he cared for him, he kept him as the apple of his eye. Deuteronomy 32:10

You are a hiding place for me; you preserve me from trouble; you surround me with shouts of deliverance. Selah Psalm 32:7

Thank you for your faithfulness, Father. In the middle of trouble. In the storm of uncertainty. Lord, you’re the one thing we count on. Every day your faithfulness carries us through. ~Brian Doerksen

Be Strong in the Lord

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Our small group has been studying the book of Jude. If you haven’t read Jude, you might want to dust off your Bible and read it. Jude is only one chapter with twenty-five verses. It would probably take ten minutes tops to read it in one sitting. What I find interesting about this book is that Jude continually writes in these few verses about apostasy in the church. If you don’t know what apostasy is, well here’s the definition.

Apostasy [uh-pos-tuh-see]: A total desertion of or departure from one’s religion, principles, party, cause, etc.

Jude’s full name was Judas, but who wants to have the same name as the disciple who betrayed Jesus? No one. And Jude was the brother of Jesus, so I’m sure it might have felt a bit uncomfortable to share the name of the man who betrayed your brother. I’d probably change my name, too.

But did you know that neither Jude nor the other three brothers of Jesus actually followed Jesus’ teachings while he was alive. It wasn’t until after he had risen from the dead that they became believers. Isn’t that interesting? Perhaps we should believe Jesus when he said that a prophet is not welcome in their own hometown. What child would actually believe that their older brother was the promised Messiah? I know that I never thought that my older brother was the Son of God.

And he said, “Truly, I say to you, no prophet is acceptable in his hometown. Luke 4:24

When Jude began writing his letter, his plan was to write about the faith he shared with his fellow believers. But he had to quickly change the tone of his letter when he learned that their church had been infiltrated by corrupt teachers. These teachers were now leading others astray by their false teaching and immoral behavior. Immoral behavior is a sign that someone’s theology has been tainted, otherwise they would still be following the teachings of Jesus.

These corrupt teachers were way off base and trying to take a church with them down a path to eternal death. It isn’t clear why they had stumbled in their walk of faith, but what we know is that they disobeyed the Word of God. Then they crept into the church unnoticed. Now they were encouraging others to follow their unsound teachings.

In his letter, Jude was urging the church to defend their faith. He was asking them to fight for what they believed and knew to be true. There are multiple ways to contend for our faith today. We can do it by calling out false teachers. We can support and applaud biblically sound teaching. Another way is to live out our Christian faith in an uncompromising way.

Jude had planned to write an encouraging and uplifting letter to this unnamed church but found he had to divert quickly in the letter to more pressing business. The same should be said for us today when we find false teachers quietly infiltrating our churches. We must stamp out the corrupt teaching and right the wrongs that have been done. We can’t let Satan’s work take shape in our churches or in our lives. We must fight the good fight until the end. We must contend for the gospel, which means that we must stand up and speak the truth even when it’s difficult.

Who knows. These corrupt teachers may have been well liked. Perhaps some people who were led astray believed those who had come into the church unnoticed were just misunderstood and should be given an opportunity to teach. Perhaps their teachings felt easier to follow than what Jesus had taught. But Jude knew what would happen if these infiltrators were allowed to continue preaching a false gospel. Many souls would be lost and the church would have seen a devastating loss.

Then he opened their minds to understand the Scriptures. Luke 24:45

We might ask how false teachers can quietly infiltrate a biblically sound church. It seems like that can’t happen, but it has happened many times over. It was happening so soon after Jesus’ ascension into heaven, and it has never stopped. We see it in churches all around us today. There are wolves in sheep’s clothing who appear to be sincere in their faith, but are trying to thwart the truth behind closed doors. We must be on guard at all times.

Just recently, I spoke to someone who told me that most of the churches in our area do not teach biblical truths. Yet some people who attend these churches may never realize they’re being fed lies. Perhaps misinterpreting the Bible is confirmation that the sinful life they choose to live is acceptable. They’re not seeking biblical truth. They’re seeking affirmation of their choices.

We Christians must be united in our fight against the evil powers of darkness. Our faith is worth being protected. Our salvation wasn’t freely given. It was bought with a huge sacrifice by the Son of God. He paid with his life. We too must sacrifice our selfish goals and desires and maintain a steadfast faith in our Savior.

As Jesus walked with two followers on the road to Emmaus, he shared the Scriptures with them in detail. Oh. They didn’t realize he had just been raised from the dead that morning. They didn’t know who he was. So he showed them by quoting Scripture after Scripture, letting the truth sink deeply into their hearts. And then when he broke bread with them, their eyes were opened. They recognized who he was.

As I was writing this, I was reminded that we need to put on the full armor of God every single day. It’s so important that we don’t set it aside at the end of the day and forget it the next morning. We have to get fully dressed every day in order to keep the enemy at bay. Then I found a couple of quotes in “A Gospel Primer for Christians” by Milton Vincent that said the same thing.

As long as I am inside the gospel, I experience all the protection I need from the powers of evil that rage against me. It is for this reason that the Bible tells me to “take up” and “put on” the whole armor of God; and the pieces of armor it tells me to put on are all merely synonyms for the gospel. ~Milton Vincent

That God would tell me to “take up” and “put on” this gospel armor alerts me to the fact that I do not automatically come into each day protected by the gospel. In fact, these commands imply that I am vulnerable to defeat and injury unless I seize upon the gospel and arm myself with it from head to toe. And what better way is there to do this than to preach the gospel to myself and to make it the obsession of my heart throughout each day? ~Milton Vincent

Our hearts must be open to reading and studying the Scriptures so we can discern truth from lies. We’ll be caught off guard if we don’t know why we believe what we believe. We must be able to explain our faith in simple terms to those who may ask for proof. When we know the Scripture, then we will also be able to detect untruths someone else may foist upon us.

A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil. Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere. Ephesians 6:10-18

Run for Your Life

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I remember an incident from many years ago that makes me laugh still to this day. I was minding my own business buying groceries. Ahead of me was a woman with a little boy tagging along behind her. She was going about her business of filling her cart with groceries, not really paying much attention to her son. He was also paying no attention to her. He was just following his mom. At one point, he turned around to hang onto my grocery cart without looking back to see who was pushing it. As we walked along, I knew what was about to happen. And when he turned around and saw me instead of his mother, suddenly nothing was right in his world. I was not the person he was expecting to see. He screamed and cried, which caught his mom’s attention. Then he ran back to the safety of his mom’s arms and all was right with him.

In that brief second that he was suspended between fear and surprise, he didn’t know what to do. He was too young to figure out what was happening. All he expected was to see his mom when he turned around. And I wasn’t his mom. He wasn’t expecting to see a total stranger. When ahead of me, I could see his mom and knew exactly what was going to happen if he turned around and looked at me. And then he did.

If this little boy had continued to hang onto my cart and trudge along with me, his mother would soon have a problem. She would come looking for him, and he would have to return to her. I held no ownership over this child, nor did I want to. It would have been very inappropriate. He was his mother’s, and his mother was his. And that’s the way it was meant to be. I was not meant to be a party to their excursion.

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. 1 John 1:7

I had never heard the phrase “situational agency” until recently. I didn’t know the meaning of it, so I asked AI to define it and provide examples. Here’s what I learned. According to AI, situational agency refers to the capacity of an individual to act and make meaningful choices within the specific constraints and opportunities of a given situation. Clear as mud, huh? Basically, we can choose to act or resist within the boundaries of our immediate circumstances.

This definition sits clearly within the confines of choosing to sin or choosing not to sin when faced with a temptation. We have the power to choose how we deal with an “opportunity” to sin or to walk away from it. We aren’t powerless when it comes to sinful temptations. We can refuse to submit to the temptation. God gives us the autonomy to give into those temptations, yet we don’t have to. As children of God, we are made new when the stain of sin and the desire to sin is removed.

When we find ourselves near sin, we must run even harder and faster to the safety of our Heavenly Father. We don’t want to get caught up in sin or even be influenced by it in any way.  We must keep our eyes on our Savior and not turn back without looking to see whose sinful cart we’ve attach ourselves to. We can muster the strength and will to push back against Satan’s schemes.

Psalm 1 tells us that we have a choice when it comes to sinning. We can choose to walk the path of sinners, or we can stand solid in our fear of the Lord. We can say no when tempted to sin. We don’t have to spend time with people who act in a wicked manner, tempting us to join them. We don’t have to accompany someone who is on a path of self destruction. We can stand alone in our faith. We can resist.

As the holidays have now passed and we were tempted to eat too many sweets, we always know that we can resist them. We don’t have to eat too many cookies. We can refuse them. And as believers in Christ, we have become a new person. Our old life is gone. We have been forgiven of our sins, so why would we want to sin again? We don’t have to.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 2 Corinthians 5:17

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord , and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; for the Lord knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish. Psalm 1:1-6

The joy of the Lord is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

We must pray for God’s grace to help us resist temptations. We must ask God to guard our hearts and minds from being prideful or haughty. We can resist Satan’s advances with God’s help. And above all, we must pursue God at all times.

The love of God working in me causes me to hate, with the Holy Spirit’s hatred for sin, anything that is not in keeping with God’s holiness. To “walk in the light” means that everything that is of the darkness actually drives me closer to the center of the light. ~Oswald Chambers

Invited Guests

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We were invited to a Christmas party by a host we didn’t know. And we knew none of the other invited guests. It was quite interesting to say the least. We were the strangers entering a home where most everyone knew someone else. It felt a bit awkward at first walking into a house full of unknowns, but we managed to meet some interesting people. The house felt a bit cramped with such a large crowd, and the host informed me that they wished they had made the kitchen and dining room bigger when they were building the house over twenty years ago. At the time, they were expecting their third child. Then a fourth came along a few years later. Now in a few months, they’ll be empty nesters.

The house was overflowing with talking, laughter and food. Their youngest son, who is a musician, played for the crowd. The mini concert was beautiful, but it caused even more noise in the cramped space. Some people who were already living with hearing loss felt as if they had lost even more of their hearing that night. But we all continued talking.

We met a couple who had moved here from San Diego four years ago. They said they didn’t miss anything about their life out west. They had settled into this neighborhood we were visiting and loved it. She was working remotely, but was planning to retire soon. They were building onto their house. She said they had attended our church for a bit when they first moved here, but it wasn’t the right fit. They have since found a “theologically conservative” church a little farther away.

Another woman has been single more years than she had been married, and she didn’t expect that to change anytime soon. She said she met the hosts at church. She enjoys visiting her daughter at work on Sunday evenings for dinner.

Then we met a couple who attends our church. I’ve never seen them before in my life, but there they were. After talking for a time, we discovered we had attended the same college a few years apart. And we even knew some of the same people. The wife has had two cornea transplants in the past year, and her husband is losing his hearing. But they love life and enjoy camping in nice weather.

The hosts were very pleasant people. We talked as if we had known each other for years, even though the wife and I had met only days earlier. And my husband, who is a musician, had a great conversation with the musician son. We had a nice time with a group of strangers that evening. After all, friends start off as strangers.

The house was crowded with standing room only for the latecomers. It was loud with many voices all at the same time. You had to talk loud and listen closely to the person next to you. But somehow it worked. Everyone took it in stride. There was no pushing or shoving, just polite jostling as people struggled to get from here to there. People moved cautiously through the space carrying plates of food and cups of warm wassail. It was a pleasant evening in the midst of strangers.

It’s the holiday season and people are being merry and bright. Festivities abound this time of year, and it doesn’t hurt to meet new people who are celebrating the birth of our Savior.

And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Luke 2:10

This time of year is when we celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I think about the trip Mary and Joseph took that led them on an adventure of a lifetime.

I wonder what thoughts and fears were swirling in the minds of Mary and Joseph when they learned they must go to Bethlehem. I wonder what strangers accompanied them as they set off for Bethlehem. They couldn’t have been traveling alone. After all, Augustus had authorized a census to be taken throughout the Roman empire. Every man was forced to return to his ancestral town to register himself and his family. There must have been hordes of people on the roads going in different directions during that time. There must have been much confusion and anxiety in the preparations for travel.

But a couple in their situation, engaged to be married and pregnant with her first child, it would have been very unusual to travel together. Yet, here they were. Traveling to a distant place where Joseph’s ancestors were born. I wonder. Did he still have family in Bethlehem? Did he know anyone there who could assist them in any way?

Mary and Joseph were most likely surrounded by strangers. They intermingled with them and made acquaintances as they traveled. And they kept traveling. Others could see that Mary was heavy with child. Who knows if they offered assistance. They didn’t know that this couple traveling weren’t yet wed. They didn’t ask. And I’m sure Mary and Joseph didn’t tell. They were all on a journey to be counted. All familiar yet unfamiliar. Even Mary and Joseph not yet married. They knew each other, yet they didn’t. They had never lived together, yet they were alone in a crowd sharing the most intimate of times. Tied together through a betrothal and a pregnancy all begotten by God.

And when Mary and Joseph arrived in Bethlehem, all the inns were full. People who arrived first got first pick of the best places to lay their head. By the time the couple arrived, there was no room for them. Oh. I’m sure they weren’t the only ones stranded out in the open. But a bigger problem was that Mary was heavily pregnant. Due at any time. What were they to do?

They eventually found a space to keep them sheltered from the elements. It could have been a barn. Or a cave. It was in fact a stable for the cattle. That’s where they lay their heads. And as it would happen, Mary delivered this child of God. Born in a stable in the dark of night. Was anyone with them to help her? Or were she and Joseph all alone? We don’t really know.

But there were people out and about. In the fields, shepherds were watching their sheep. Suddenly an angel was hovering in their presence. And he spoke words of joy and blessing to them. After he shared the good news that the Promised Messiah had been born, a host of angels joined him singing and praising God. Then this band of weary shepherds went to find the babe in the town of Bethlehem, just right where they were told he would be found. He would be in swaddling clothes lying in a manger. And he was.

“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!” Luke 2:14

Oh. Mary and Joseph weren’t alone for long. As this strange band of shepherds burst into the stable, there was the baby just as they had been told. He looked like any other baby. A newborn. But they knew he was different. And they bowed to worship him. I’m sure Mary and Joseph were in awe. How did anyone know they were in the stable and that Mary had just given birth? How did these men know? They weren’t strangers for long, as the men shared how the angels surprised them in the field with the great news of the birth of Jesus.

You can read the full story in Luke 2.

Mary and Joseph encountered these shepherds coming to worship the Messiah. They wanted to pay tribute to their Savior. Little did they know of the life he would lead, but they bowed before him in humble gratitude. Strangers yet kin in spirit.

Later, when the wise men came to call, it was with the same reverence they bowed in worship. As they offered their humble gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh, the knowledge of who they were worshipping left them in awe. A small child yet the Savior of the world was in front of them, unaware of the mission of his life. They too were strangers in a foreign land yet bound by the Lord of the universe.

We too can be strangers to the Savior, yet we don’t have to be. We too can bow in worship before him, not only during the season we celebrate his birth, but we can choose to bow before him in submission every day. I pray that your life will be lived in surrender to His will. Don’t be a stranger to the goodness and forgiveness of God. He is the Good News the world has been awaiting.

Observations of a Seasoned Church Goer

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I had an interesting conversation with a stranger the other night. I was standing in a mostly empty parking lot in the dark with a group of people I don’t know. We were waiting to pick up orders we had placed that had been delivered to an empty church parking lot. It may sound sketchy, but it’s all legit. I promise. I started a conversation with the woman standing nearest me. Oh. I had heard her name and thought I knew something about her, so I asked her about it. I asked if she attended the church I attended. She hesitated for a second. Then she said no. She said she used to attend the church but had left it.

This woman then proceeded to tell me the reason in detail why her family had left the church that I have fallen in love with. She said she didn’t feel community in the church. Oh. Her family had been attending the church for several years so their kids could be involved in the youth group. Several of the family members were heavily involved in another ministry of the church. She and her husband had been a part of a small group that later disbanded. And in their attempts to join another group, they weren’t made to feel welcome. After awhile, they felt the church had become too cliquey. She said that when they left the church, no one from the church reached out to them to see if they were ok. No one contacted them to find out what was going on. No one. They heard from NO ONE.

She admitted to me, a stranger, that she knew they were partially responsible for not finding community in the church since they weren’t involved in a small group. She knew that was part of their problem. But she also said she and her husband felt it was time to move on after a key person in the church moved away. So they left, too.

I know it sometimes seems easier to slip away quietly and never look back than it is to keep trying even though no one’s watching.

Oh. They haven’t found a new church home yet. They’re still looking. And she said something interesting, yet not surprising. Most of the churches in the community aren’t biblically sound churches. They don’t really teach the Bible, and they’ve lost their way by instead focusing on cultural approval. That’s not what she’s looking for. And she knew that although our church is biblically sound, it just doesn’t seem to be the place for her. They’ve been attending a newer church where some of their kids attend. They’re not sure if that’s where they’ll land, but that’s where they are for now.

I told her of our experience with this church when we were newbies. I told her that no one was friendly. No one talked to us. But we have since gotten involved in a small group and other ministry areas. We are feeling community around us, and we’re developing relationships. And that’s the important thing to do in church. Get involved and meet other people. Many people are looking for friendship with others who have similar beliefs. It isn’t easy or comfortable. It takes work, and we need to push aside the discomfort we will feel when putting ourselves in an unfamiliar setting. It takes time to grow relationships and find our people. We need to embrace the need for community and actively seek it. We’re making progress, but we still have a ways to go.

This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. John 15:12-13

After talking with her, I thought of two other women who were attending the church when I first moved here. I don’t know their names, but I saw them on a regular basis. They weren’t together. They didn’t even know each other. Each of them sat alone. I never really saw them talking to anyone. Being new myself, I didn’t know if they were new or just kept to themselves. And, of course, I never spoke to them. Now neither of them are attending the church. I haven’t seen them in months. I wonder if they too felt a lack of community. I wonder if they too were overlooked by a church full of people every Sunday. It can happen, and it does happen far more often than we may realize.

Church. We need to do better than this. Even if we’re a solid introvert, we can still extend the hand of friendship when we see someone sitting alone. When we see a new person walk through the doors, we can greet them and introduce ourselves. And when someone is looking for a new small group, why not invite them to join yours? We all need community. We all need friendships. We all need fellowship. And we don’t get that by sitting alone and not getting involved.

This woman I met in the dark wasn’t looking for affirmation that she did the right thing by walking away. Nor was she looking for a lecture telling her she should go back and try again. She just needed to be heard. She needed to let out all the loneliness and disappointment when no one else had stopped to even ask. Perhaps it was easier telling a stranger in the dark. Oh. I had no idea that I would hear such a story. I was dismayed to think that my church could treat someone unkindly. But I also knew how I felt when no one spoke to me for weeks. When no one even saw that I existed.

I reached out to her the next day to let her know that I was praying that she and her husband could find a church where community and fellowship were plentiful. There are those churches. But I’ve learned something in life that’s easy to forget. The church is full of people. Imperfect people. And imperfect people sometimes overlook other people. We sometimes forget to open the door of friendship to someone else who isn’t already one of us. We don’t include those who are new. We don’t allow people who’ve attended our church for years to become part of our small group, because we don’t welcome change. We can do better. We must do better. Because if believers don’t treat other believers well, how are we treating unbelievers?

Later in the evening, this woman responded to my text. She said she had thought about our conversation that morning. Then she invited me and my husband to her family’s Christmas open house. We’ll go. We are all looking for friendship, fellowship, discipleship, acceptance and accountability. That’s what community is all about. And meeting new people is always the way to expand your community.

This problem isn’t confined to only my church. If we’re honest, it probably happens in most churches. We get set in our ways, and we expect someone else to take care of the new people or those who are searching for fellowship. We assume someone else will notice them. And that’s how many people are unknowingly pushed aside. If most people were aware of this problem in their church, they would be horrified. But would they make sure it never happened again? After all, church is the place where everyone is supposed to feel welcome.

It’s too bad that the church is just like workplaces and schools and neighborhoods where only the select are made to feel welcome. Locked-in friendship groups are very real in churches, just as they are in other areas of life. This isn’t community. It’s a clique. Shame on us Christians. Let’s open our hearts to those who are seeking relationships with fellow believers. No one is above the other.

Well, gotta go! I have a Christmas party to attend.

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. 1 Peter 4:8-9

Peace on Earth, Goodwill Toward Men

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The neighbor across the street finally came over to introduce himself fifteen months after we moved in. Oh. I suppose we could have walked over and extended the hand of friendship first, but we didn’t. We see each other from a distance and have raised a hand in greeting many times. But the neighbor finally made the first move. And somehow the conversation quickly circled to the fact that the person who had formerly lived in the house next door to us had filed a lawsuit against him. And the suit went on for five expensive years. Oh. This man who stood in our driveway had won in multiple courts, but it came at a cost for both him and the woman who sued him. He lost five years without a floor in his barn. She lost her home.

The lawsuit? She sued him because he built a small barn that blocked her view of the lake. Honestly. I can see her point. The barn isn’t a thing of beauty. And it does partially block even my view of the lake. But the man who owned the property built the barn without asking anyone’s permission. It was his property to use as he saw fit. Even if it disgruntled the neighbor. It’s easy to say that the rest of the neighbors were glad when she was forced to move out of her home. It’s called foreclosure. All because of an unnecessary lawsuit. Yes. She lost her home because she put all her money into a frivolous lawsuit that she eventually lost. Even the highest court in the state thought her lawsuit was ridiculous and declined to review it.

What is peace? Is it even possible these days to declare peace? I know it isn’t peace when two opposing sides won’t even speak to each other. Or when they cut each other off from having a relationship. I know it isn’t a peaceful protest when there is gunfire and violence and burning buildings. It isn’t peace when one neighbor files a lawsuit against someone across the street.

According to Merriam-Webster, the current definition is a state of tranquility or peace such as freedom from civil disturbance; a state of security or order within a community provided for by law or custom; freedom from being disturbed or bothered by people, noise, etc.; freedom from disquieting thoughts or emotions; harmony in personal relations; a state or period of mutual concord between governments; a pact or agreement to end hostilities between those who have been at war or are in a state of enmity; or is used interjectionally to ask for silence or calm or as a greeting or farewell.

It seems today there are conflicting thoughts about peace. There is a new unwritten definition that says two parties must mutually agree for there to be peace, particularly in political and cultural views. If there is any hint of disagreement, then there is no peace. It’s all out war. We read of examples of failures of this type of “peace” in the news most every day. It seems that today we can’t have peace unless everyone agrees. And if there is disagreement, one person or party is ousted or destroyed. It doesn’t matter who they are or what the relationship previously looked like.

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. John 14:27

So then we look at the life of Jesus. And we read of two seemingly conflicting thoughts of peace relating to his life and mission on this earth.

We read the Christmas story in Luke 2:1-40. The night Jesus was born, shepherds were in the fields watching their sheep. Suddenly an angel appeared under the cover of darkness and proclaimed a message the shepherds didn’t quite understand. Yet they believed what the were told. Then a host of angels appeared praised God saying, “Glory to God in the highest , and on earth peace, good will toward men.”

Ten chapters later in Luke 12, we read that Jesus said that he did not come to bring peace to the earth. He says. I come to divide people against each other. And how can we reconcile these two Scriptures? Luke 2:14 and Luke 12.

“I have come to set the world on fire, and I wish it were already burning! I have a terrible baptism of suffering ahead of me, and I am under a heavy burden until it is accomplished. Do you think I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I have come to divide people against each other! From now on families will be split apart, three in favor of me, and two against—or two in favor and three against. ‘Father will be divided against son and son against father; mother against daughter and daughter against mother; and mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.’ ”Luke 12:49-53

Jesus knew his coming to earth had an eternal purpose for all mankind. He knew his message would turn the tides. He was fulfilling the prophesies of old. And he knew his role and purpose in his Father’s plan. He couldn’t sit idly by and watch people just live the Jewish law. He came to fulfill it. He was the promised Messiah. The Savior of the world that his people had been waiting for. He knew that, yet not everyone received his message with open arms and open hearts.

These two chapters in Luke go from angelic beings proclaiming peace on the night the Promised Messiah was born to that Promised Messiah announcing that he does not bring peace to the world. What a contrast we see, but the message is really the same. The message of both announcements is that Jesus Christ was sent to the earth to bring peace to our troubled souls. But that peace can only be achieved through the acceptance of his message. And before that message is received, there will be trouble within and without us. We will have to reconcile to ourselves that in order for Jesus to be Lord of our lives, we must bow in submission to him. That is no easy task for proud individuals.

When Jesus cried out, “It is finished,” as he hung on that old rugged cross, he knew that he was paying the ultimate price for peace in men’s hearts. He knew that peace could be attained by all men, but there would be warfare of all kinds heaped upon those created in his image. He knew we would struggle with temptations to sin. He knew we would cause wars and endless trouble in this world. He knew we would be selfish and greedy and seek to punish those who disagreed with us. But his gift of salvation offered us forgiveness for all our sins. But we must be willing to pay the price of self sacrifice in order to have the peace that only He can give.

The difference in the woman stirring up trouble in the neighborhood because her view of the lake was blocked and Jesus coming to divide people was that he was stirring the hearts of men and women to either believe in him or reject him. His purpose had eternal consequences. And everyone must choose which path to follow. Belief or disbelief in the Savior of the world. The woman next door stirred up trouble because her feelings were hurt. She could have bought the house across the street and had a more magnificent view of the lake. But no. She chose the path of hard resistance, and it cost her nearly everything. Jesus chose the path of dying on the cross for all mankind to save us from losing our souls. He obeyed his Father’s will to die for our sins so we wouldn’t have to.

In the midst of a troubled world, Jesus does bring peace to hurting hearts and wounded souls. He offers forgiveness and is waiting for us to respond. We can have peace in a troubled world if only we turn our hearts toward Him.

The Light of the World

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I had just gotten into bed and turned off the light. Then I heard the doorbell camera chime. It chimes a lot when it’s windy outside, so I assumed it was just the wind. But then it chimed again, so I picked up my phone and opened the app. And I saw the beam of headlights heading straight toward the garage door. Someone was in the driveway. When I saw the vehicle, I knew immediately who it was. It was the neighbor plowing our driveway after ten o’clock on a snowy Saturday night. I nudged my husband, and he saw what I saw. A good neighbor, indeed.

This man who plowed our driveway is a good and thoughtful man. He’s been overly generous sharing the excess of what he has with us. He’s not typically one I would associate with, because our style of living is very different. He’s a little rough around the edges. I would say he’s not refined, but then I’m not sure I am either. We just have different priorities in life, and that’s ok. He’s good people.

He offered his lawn equipment and air conditioners to us to use free of charge. He freely gave of the excess of firewood to us and our friend. He’s taught his young adult son to be as thoughtful and giving as he is. He also works to make this small community of ours better and safer.

This man is no different from anyone else. He has his own set of faults and flaws. I’m sure if I spoke to his family, they might hint at some of his failings if the conversation went on long enough. I don’t need to know those things about him. I want to know him as a good neighbor.

Jesus spoke to the people once more and said, “I am the light of the world. If you follow me, you won’t have to walk in darkness, because you will have the light that leads to life.” John 8:12

This man whose lights were beaming onto my garage door is a good man, but that won’t save him. He can perform acts of goodwill and kindness every day like it’s his job, but on judgment day that won’t be what God is looking for. God says that all mankind must seek forgiveness and repent of their sins. Jesus is the light of the world, for all of us walk in darkness. When we receive his forgiveness, we have received the light of the world into our lives.

For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true. Ephesians 5:8-9

Jesus is the fountain of life. The thing is. We can’t just look at the light, like I did from my doorbell camera. We must follow the light of the world. Wherever he leads, we must follow. We must walk in the light, for it is not only a light for our eyes. It is a light for our feet. Jesus says that if we follow him, we won’t walk in darkness, but we will have the light of life.

When we walk in spiritual darkness, we can’t see the path ahead. We make wrong decisions. We act on selfish impulses. We take risks that can cause life-altering changes. We stumble around not seeing the trouble that could be right in front of us . And we say that we love our life.

And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God. John 3:19-21

When Jesus said that he was the light of the world, he had just forgiven a woman caught in the act of adultery. That act would have typically sentenced the person to death by stoning. Her accusers stood nearby pointing the finger of shame and accusation at her, ready to throw stones. After Jesus heard their accusations, he bent down and wrote in the dust. Then he spoke a profound sentence that stunned every one of her accusers. He told this group of important men that the person in their group who had never sinned could throw the first stone of death at her. And guess what happened. When Jesus stood up to face them, the woman stood alone. All of her accusers had silently walked away. They too were guilty of sin. Perhaps not sins that required them to be publicly rebuked and stoned to death, but their sins may have been even greater than hers. And they knew it. Their silent walk of shame spoke more words than their loud accusations of adultery.

Yet Jesus did not require them to repent. He allowed them to walk away unchanged with hardened hearts. He knew and they knew they were guilty and needed to confess their sinful ways. They had the option to repent and turn to faith in the One who knelt drawing in the sand before them. And they did not.

But this woman caught in an adulterous act was not condemned by Jesus. He knew her sin, yet he told her to go and sin no more. He offered her a word of hope because he knew she would be shamed by her community. He knew she needed hope because her sin would perhaps cause her lifelong harmful consequences. She needed forgiveness and hope, which Jesus freely offered. And she walked away forgiven.

Read the story of the adulterous woman at John 8:1-11.

God does not push us to seek him. He waits for us. He’s everlastingly patient with each of us. But the light of the world continues to shine for all of us to see. And in our moments of despair, when all seems lost, the light of the world is waiting for us to reach out to him and repent. He will accept with open arms anyone who calls on his name. But we have to know that faith in God and salvation are always optional. It’s a risk we take when we choose to walk our own path in the darkness. We may believe that our walk in the darkness is a great life, but little do we know the joy and peace we’re missing without the light. Only the light of the world can save us.

But God never coerces us. Sometimes we wish He would make us obedient, and at other times we wish He would leave us alone. ~Oswald Chambers

We have a choice today and every day. We can choose to walk in darkness, or we can choose hope and forgiveness and the light of the world. If you are still walking in darkness, open your heart today and seek forgiveness of your sins and repent. Your faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior will lead you into his light.

The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who dwelt in a land of deep darkness, on them has light shone. Isaiah 9:2

Mouse in the House

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We have a mouse problem in our house. Yes, we’ve seen mice. It seems they like to taunt us, running to and fro throughout the living room as we sit and watch. We hear them feasting on the poison bait that we’ve set out for them. If we’re lucky, we’ll find the dead bodies the next morning. Sometimes we do, sometimes we don’t. I’m thankful that we haven’t noticed any bad odors, but I wonder where they go to die if not on my living room floor.

But now I’m hoping we’ve turned a corner for the good. I don’t want to be braggadocious, but we may have found a solution to keep our house rodent free. We’ve discovered a product that is supposed to repel all rodents with a high frequency sound that isn’t heard by humans. The first night these night lights were plugged in, we heard a bit of mouse noise but didn’t see any mice. I want to say that so far it seems to be working. We’re hoping to keep the winning streak going.

The problem with the mice is that we don’t know how they’re getting into the house. We’ve seen evidence of them in the kitchen, and we’ve seen them dead and alive in the living room. Oh. We had the same problem last year and never figured it out. But this year, we’ve already seen more mice in one month than we did all last winter. That’s a problem in my book. We did plug one hole in the kitchen with steel wool, so hopefully that problem is solved. But we have no idea how they are getting into the living room.

I walked into one room the other day, and I thought I noticed a bad odor. It smelled like a rotting carcass. It’s rather faint and intermittent, so I’m not sure if it’s real or imagined. If it’s real, then the evidence is hidden and I’ll have to find it. I’m not looking forward to that. I’ve started an investigation, but I haven’t found anything. I’m afraid to do a thorough search, because this is one time I don’t really want to find what I’m looking for.

I can’t say that our house is free of mice. It may take some time and some waiting. We’ll have to watch and look for evidence. Or maybe we’ll hear a mouse but not see one. It’s a bit of a wait and see time for us right now. Time will tell if these new magical night lights work long term.

Then just yesterday morning, as I was walking to the kitchen I saw it. A dead mouse near the front door. At least it was dead. That’s what I tell myself. When we installed the repellant night lights, I knew we might need to get a few more to thoroughly block the mice. Now I know where I need to place a few more. I’m glad they found the new treasure trove of poison traps in the laundry room that did the work. But my goal is complete eradication of these pests. I don’t want them lurking anywhere in my house.

I also noticed a couple of days ago that the poison trap I had set out near the front door last year was empty. It wasn’t touched last year, but I guess the mice are hungry this year. I need to replenish my supply of bait.

Sin is no longer your master, for you no longer live under the requirements of the law. Instead, you live under the freedom of God’s grace. Romans 6:14

When we repent of our sins and surrender our lives to Christ, we are free from sin. The burden of carrying the weight of unforgiven sins has left us. We are free. But here’s the thing. We can’t keep on sinning. We must turn our back on any sins that had a stranglehold on us and walk away from that life. Otherwise, we’re like the mice that keep returning. We don’t need to return to our old way of life, because we live by another standard. We live by biblical standards and beliefs once we’ve rejected sin. We can’t just dodge sin. We must reject all acts of sin in our lives.

As new believers, we need to put barriers in our life to keep us from veering back to sin. We’re living a different life now. In this new forgiven life, we’re now living under the crucifixion of Christ.

As for me, may I never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ. Because of that cross, my interest in this world has been crucified, and the world’s interest in me has also died. Galatians 6:14

Just as I’m unsure yet if I’m smelling a rotting mouse carcass, sin can sneak in and entice us when we least expect it. The thing about sin is that we can’t wait to sniff it out. We must remove it immediately before it takes hold in our lives. Oh. We’ll notice the odor all right, because it doesn’t come off as a fine fragrance. It’s rotten to the core. And now that I know the mice have found a new path of travel in my house, I need to button down that area with more nightlights to ward them off. The same goes for my spiritual life. I need to equip myself every day with the full armor of God. Otherwise, a temptation to sin could catch me off guard.

A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil. Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Ephesians 6:10-17

Most of us are not consistent spiritually because we are more concerned about being consistent externally. ~Oswald Chambers

Do not let sin control the way you live; do not give in to sinful desires. Do not let any part of your body become an instrument of evil to serve sin. Instead, give yourselves completely to God, for you were dead, but now you have new life. So use your whole body as an instrument to do what is right for the glory of God. Sin is no longer your master, for you no longer live under the requirements of the law. Instead, you live under the freedom of God’s grace. Romans 6:12-14

Poor Customer Service

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I had an experience in the past couple of weeks where I felt my husband and I received poor customer service. And honestly. It was no fault of ours. The salesperson was new to her job, but she had been doing similar work for years. That means she should have been well informed about the information we were discussing. The only part of her job that was new and unfamiliar was the company she now worked for. And her surroundings were different. I’m sure the commute to work was different. But the work was the same.

However. When this individual realized the product we were looking for was not her preferred product, she got all flustered. In her previous employment, she was responsible for selling her preferred product, which is similar but not identical to what we wanted. And she voiced her frustrations to us. She said she didn’t want to work with the product we were looking for. It was too hard. And then she entered my date of birth incorrectly into the website. When the error was discovered, it was too late to update it. She would need to make a call to another company the next day to make the change. Because it was the end of the workday and she had another client waiting, she didn’t have time to even begin work on my husband’s information. She said she would call us the next day to complete the work.

She didn’t call the next day. And then it was the weekend. She didn’t call on Monday, so I left a voicemail for her. No call on Tuesday, so I sent her an email. You see. We’re on a strict deadline, and we don’t want to wait until the last possible minute to complete this enrollment. Time is ticking by. She finally called us back eight days after our initial meeting. Oh. She apologized profusely. And then she started working on my husband’s information.

All was going well until she hit the enter button to complete his enrollment. She received an error message and didn’t know how to correct what shouldn’t have been an error. Honestly. This time, the mistake wasn’t her fault. Nor was it ours. But it was too late in the day on a Friday to call someone somewhere else to correct the problem. So once again, we’re waiting. And time is still ticking by.

Oh. There is much more to the story that I could share. There were several more missteps on her part that I just won’t go into. I just won’t. I don’t want to nitpick over words and incomplete training or frustrations, but it was frustrating. To say the least. To say that she was ill prepared for our appointment and seemed to have little regard for details is an understatement. On my end, I had thought of contacting her manager to discuss the situation. But I kept stalling. Now I’m glad I did, because when she finally returned my call and was able to finalize my situation she was very pleasant. But does that make all the other words and attitudes on her end null and void?

It isn’t my goal in life to cause someone to get in trouble at work, but I did see several opportunities for improvement at that workplace. I guess I’ll not share those thoughts at this time. I really don’t want to be seen as a troublemaker. But I do expect a salesperson to be ready to sell all the products their company offers. Isn’t the customer always right? I recall that motto being thrown around a lot in the past.

As I’m writing this, I just hung up the phone with this particular salesperson who thought she had fixed the remaining problem. And the problem was fixed. But when we received the information for one final review, there were two huge outstanding errors. We were told it was the other company, not our salesperson, who had entered the information incorrectly. After all the hassles we’ve been through with this person, we didn’t really believe her. It just didn’t ring true. But we could be wrong. And we’re still waiting for resolution.

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you. Matthew 7:12

I have to ask myself. What do I expect of myself in that situation? How should I respond when I’m on the receiving end of someone else’s bad day or incompetence? Do I exhibit the love of Christ? Or do I stir up even more anxious thoughts and feelings in them by calling out their mistakes? When is it appropriate to share my concerns with their manager, and when should I be silent about such matters? I need to make sure my attitude reflects the attitude of Christ at all times.

How should a Christian respond when they’re on the receiving end of poor service?

First of all, I’m not sure the salesperson had a full understanding of what to say and what not to say to her clients. She didn’t filter her words, which could have gotten really ugly if we had gone down that path. As Christians, we don’t have to start the fight. We need to know when it is appropriate to confront the misbehavior and ill spoken words and when not to. Basically, we need to choose our battles. That doesn’t mean we should never speak up about any mistreatment.

Being the recipients of inexcusable behavior allows people of faith to show the love of God. We can display godly actions and words while presenting the truth. Oh. It may not be easy in the heat of the moment, but we can exhibit kindness and speak correction all in the same breath. We have to stop and ask ourselves if we really care about the person who’s been poorly trained or having a bad day. If we were in their shoes, would we act any differently than they are? And we have to remember that they too were made in the image of God and are loved by him just as we are. But God is a God of justice, not just of love.

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. James 1:19-20

And another thing. We shouldn’t keep score. Oh. We may have to recite all the wrongs committed against us when we report inappropriate behavior, but we can’t hold a grudge or try to even the score. We always have the option not to do business with that individual or company again and part ways amicably.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

But our story isn’t over, and the problem still isn’t solved. We’re still waiting to hear back from her, but she’ll be on vacation during Thanksgiving week. I just have to roll my eyes and sigh at this point.

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. Colossians 3:23