She doesn’t respect authority. That’s all it comes down to. She gets really mad if she doesn’t get her way.
She told me this. She said I need to do as she does. Here’s what you do. She says. She learned this lesson from someone years ago. You just tell the one in authority what you’re going to do. Don’t ask for their permission. Just tell them and then just do it. Sounds a little like a commercial, huh? It’s the way she lives her life. It’s the way she handles situations. The thing is. I call it disrespect. How do you tell someone in authority over you what you’re going to do without asking permission? How can someone get away with that?
I mean sure. That’s what I’d like to do. Just tell the authority figure what I’m going to do. And then do it. But I can’t. Call me weak. Call me a wimp. But I have a thing about showing respect. Even if I don’t want to. It’s the right thing to do.
A friend reminded me of something very important. This person doesn’t love Jesus. So she doesn’t stop to think that her outlook on getting her own way is selfish. It’s rude. That’s how I described it. Rude. It made me madder the longer I thought about it.
She’s a grown woman. A grandmother. Why does she think she can always get her way?
The problem is. She doesn’t realize that others say she’s difficult to work with. She doesn’t have a good reputation. She doesn’t know this. She thinks she does a great job. She wants a promotion. Her boss doesn’t know how to deal with her. He’s frustrated. Doesn’t confront the issues that she causes. Just pacifies her. Just lets her do things her way. She’s never been told that there are issues with her work ethic.
I really want to tell her what I think. But then do I become just like her? I don’t want that. You see. I like her. I just don’t like what she stands for. I still need to respect her. I need to respect our differences. Perhaps I should go boldly and gently there with her. Talk to her. Is it my place? I’m not sure.
People who despise advice are asking for trouble; those who respect a command will succeed. Proverbs 13:13
I have to stop and consider the times I’m disrespectful. How do I know I’m not just like her? How can I make sure I’m not just like her? I like to get my way. I say unkind words.
I think of a time. Not too long ago. Words were said that offended me. Words that sounded like a command when a command wasn’t necessary. I said words back. I couldn’t help myself. That what I told myself. But I knew I needed to stop my words. I knew I needed to show respect to the authority figure. Even though they weren’t being respectful to me.
I was offended recently. Twice. By the same person. I was confused. They had described me in words that I would never use to talk about myself. That’s not how I see myself. I don’t believe it, and I couldn’t understand why they were saying those words to me. But it doesn’t matter why. I wanted to say words back. I wanted to tell that person what their weaknesses were. But I couldn’t. It wouldn’t be the right words to say. I needed to respect them. Not speak in anger. It wasn’t my place to say those words. It was really difficult to keep those words inside. Because once words come out, they can never go away. As much as we want them to. They just can’t.
I know I need to pray for these people. The ones who don’t show respect. The ones who think they should get their way. The ones who say unkind words to others.
I need to pray for myself. I need to ask God to forgive me when I don’t show respect. When I fight to get my way. When I say unkind words.
The golden rule really is golden. Treat others the way you want to be treated.